19 January 2011

What defines you.

Recently I have gone through some work issues.  To be honest I have never really been happy in my job, in the past I have used excuses like “it’s the company” or “i am bored” or “it’s time to move on” but the truth is that I am unhappy in my job because it’s not something that I am passionate about.

Have you ever noticed that when you meet someone one of the first questions they ask of you is “What do you do?”  As a society we have come to use someone’s job title as part of forming an opinion of that person.  For someone like me that isn’t attached to my job title and put absolutely no value to it whatsoever it kinda sucks.  Picture this scenario – fancy cocktail party, are introduced to some affluent people, you are fitting in nicely and chatting away, the inevitable “what do you do” comes up, me “I’m in admin – yes I do admin”, affluent person trying to be polite “oh what company do you work for” explain, “oh that’s .... lovely” looks uncomfortable and suddenly has a craving for those caviar hors' d oeuvres.

*I* don’t define myself by the work I do and I suppose for me because I put no value on it I find it hard to understand why other people do.  But I suppose in a way job titles make us fit into a nice little box and give people clear guidelines about what kind of person you possibly could be and if they would like to be associated with you.  It's sad in a way because I'm sure people miss out on getting to know great people by boxing and labeling like that.

Maybe my thoughts on this will change if I ever get to do something I am passionate about but for now, yes I have a job and no my job does not define me.


  1. Nix... We're a dumbass society if what we DO defines who we ARE. Clearly, we are a dumbass society.

    You are NOT your job. Even I, who am passionate about my work, do not define myself by my job. I am MUCH more than my work - as are you.

    Put it this way: You do not need a medical degree to be a healer. And, having a medical degree does not automatically mean you are a healer.

    I do feel sorry for the people who need The Job Title in order to define who they are because either they spend their lives working... or they have REAL identity crises on weekends when they are not working. People who define themselves by what they do are clearly compensating for a lack of self-awareness; for not knowing who they really are inside.

    We are not human doings... but human beings.

  2. I think the "what do you do?" question comes up first and people place weight on the response because most people are in a job that reflects their personality or passion in some way - so it usually gives you some small insight into what the person is like.

    Definitely think you need to find a job that you're passionate about - maybe even if you are still doing admin, doing admin for a company that you could feel enthusiastic about working for. Good luck!!